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asexual

by xLightsOutx
school project. basically an autobiographical comic depicting stereotypes and whatnot that i encounter due to being asexual.
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asexual

school project. basically an autobiographical comic depicting stereotypes and whatnot that i encounter due to being asexual.

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aryaya
February 13th, 2017
...... There's also the chance she could get raped.... I mean.... Well I guess it's just a comic so it's not like everything's taken into account.
xLightsOutx
January 16th, 2017
@Stankard Toohy: eh, speaking as someone who has survived both physical and emotional abuse, i don't think it's really okay to downplay emotional abuse haha ;;;; it's definitely equally as bad, just in a different way.
Stankard Toohy (Guest)
January 9th, 2017
@xLightsOutx
This is a super late response, so you might not see it. To preface this, I'm asexual but androromantic, so I may not be the best word when when talking about the aromantic side of things. For me, I grew up with intense physical abuse (from peers, not family) to the point where as a fifth grader I had learned how to hold my own in a fist fight with people twice my age. I clearly recall the first time I fought back. A high schooler had my armed pinned behind my back and my hair in his fist. He kept bashing my head against the brick wall and threatening to break my arm. I still don't know why I was picked out for that kind of bullying, but needless to say, it toughened me up a bit. When I found out I was asexual, I first decided to come out to my mother. That was when the emotional abuse started. I guess after the years of beatings, the emotional side of things didn't seem as bad. With every insult, I just put myself back against that brick wall and told myself that I fought out of that so I can fight out of this.
Yma
January 5th, 2017
DARN
Thank you so much for making this comic. I have experiences like this all the time, it's comforting to know that you're not the only one out there who struggles with this stuff. ;v;
Samsama
December 18th, 2016
robot? you have no (low) sexdrive, that doesn't mean you don't have feelings. jesus. also, refuse to have sex? like she would give up sex simply because the entire world was asexual. doesn't make any sense.
these pages are painfully powerful
Samsama
December 18th, 2016
how cruel. asexual and aromatic isn't the same for one. and even then, it's the guy's choice, not theirs. i have a friend who's asexual, she'd been with her (pretty sexual) boyfriend for eight years, and it was never a problem. he liked her a lot, and the relationship, in his eyes, was about being with her on an intimate level that had nothing to do with his libido. he just loved her, the end.
Samsama
December 18th, 2016
this was amazing! your art is beyond gorgeous, and i love how you worked with the red letters. also, people are shit. just because they have a problem with who you are, doesn't mean they have to make that your problem too :)
I loved it!
xLightsOutx
May 26th, 2016
@TomoDatDorkHiro: i did not yell at anyone on the internet about how hard my life is?? :^) i'm simply sharing my personal experiences. and it is not someone else's place to tell me that i am confused about my orientation. i know what i am or am not interested in a hell of a lot better than someone else (especially a doctor who only talks to me maybe five times a year at most). it isn't "sharing logical thinking"-- it's pushing their own orientation onto me. it would be considered kind of strange and invasive if a gay guy were to tell a straight guy, "oh you'll sleep with a guy someday! you just haven't met the right guy yet!" so i don't really think it's acceptable for a straight person to tell me that i'll sleep with someone eventually. it's honestly such a weird and uncomfortable thing to tell someone.
also, if i do decide one day that i was just unsure/confused, then that's my business. it's not anyone else's place to tell me that.
xLightsOutx
May 26th, 2016
@TomoDatDorkHiro: yes, we are lucky to have vaccinations that can help prevent hpv! the issue i had with my doctor was that she was incredibly dismissive of my sexual orientation, implying that my orientation wasn't real at all and that i was just confused. (i have identified as asexual for ten years now, so i am pretty confident that i am not confused, thanks!) i was entering college at the time and she outright told me that i was likely to get drunk one night and end up sleeping around because "that just happens in college." it was really gross of her to act like i have no control over my own actions and my own body. i agree that hpv vaccinations are a good idea! i am not opposed to them at all. but i do think that i should receive the vaccination on my own terms, and i certainly should not be pressured into getting one through insults from my doctor. i don't think that i conveyed any of this clearly through my comic, for which i apologize. i was making this comic for a school project and therefore was severely limited on time, so i had to be concise. unfortunately that resulted in some areas of the comic being unclear. if i were to remake it, i would definitely try to better clarify this section of the comic :^)
TomoDatDorkHiro
March 30th, 2016
Okay, is this person's life hard because they're getting a shot that can save their life? It's not impossible for someone who sees themselves as asexual to at some point actually have sex. HPV is serious, we should be thankful that we're able to minimize the chances of developing cancer.
TomoDatDorkHiro
March 30th, 2016
Ugh.
People often end up realizing they actually were confused or unsure. There's no need at all to yell to the internet about how hard one's life is because someone shared logical thinking with them.
chimdimdo
February 16th, 2016
I didn't know what and asexual was until know cAt
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WolfYakuga
February 2nd, 2016
This was so beautiful ;n;
@pr1L
January 21st, 2016
Wonderful
This is outstanding. You are wonderfully talented.
Seiluna
January 10th, 2016
I'm so thankful for my parents right now...
I'm not ace, but I understand that the ace community faces plenty of challenges socially and personally both similar and different from other sexualities.

I've recently realized that I'm demisexual-panromantic which is fine, but in my younger years, when boys were immature and hard to relate to and therefore bond with. So I was only feeling sexual attraction to a few of the girls that I knew. So I eventually talked to my mom, nervous as I was I said I was bi despite feeling like I was possibly gay. My mom, being a mom, seemed to sense what I really meant and replied, "I'll admit, I don't really approve for religious reasons, but you are my kid and I'll love you no matter what. I'll love any partner you have that treats you right. And I do want grandkids so at least consider adopting, okay?" That conversation managed to repair a big rift in our relationship. And I have since had many relationships both sexual and non but mostly non which many did find strange in a world where people assume if you date someone for more than a day you've had sex.

Anyway, I don't mean to make this about me or down play your struggles as ace. My point was there's parents and people who understand and don't care. If your family doesn't ever understand or approve, then find out build a "family" that will. There's plenty of reasonable and understanding people out there.

Thank you for sharing your experience with us! This wonderfully well written and well drawn!
Thank you so much.
Thank you for making this, it brought me to tears to know people understand the struggles of an asexual's everyday life.
me (Guest)
July 22nd, 2015
Very good work!
Great!. It's so interesting and I really like it. I'm not asexual though, but i identify some of the blocks with my life. People labeling me just cuz I can't "fall in love" like them, neither have a couple, even worst be intimate with someone.

I don't know what my condition is still, but i feel the eyes of everyone over me, getting dissapointed because i don't give them what they expect of me.

I feel better when I realize that I'm not the only one feeling like this, people that can understand even a little bit of this things that happen to me.

Good work! and keep doing it! Don't let anyone take it away from you *thumbs up*
Psyzan
July 10th, 2015
@xLightsOutx: Beautiful drawings, including the hands! And I agree - hands can convey so much emotion! I love your comic <3
xLightsOutx
July 2nd, 2015
@buttertoest: omg ;__; your comment broke my heart. i soo relate, and it's seriously the worst. i hate that not having an interest in sex honestly just flat-out means that some people will refuse to be friends with me. it's like this strange ultimatum -- you either have to be willing to be in a sexual relationship with someone or you can't be around that person at all.
but when i lose a friend like that, i have to remind myself that they really aren't worth my time. if they couldn't comply with the type of relationship that i wanted, then we weren't compatible friends to begin with. they wanted something i couldn't provide for them, and vice versa. for a long time i felt really bad about it, i felt broken too, but it's not that we're broken -- we just simply aren't compatible friends with those people. and that's okay! why waste our energy being upset over those people when we could instead be out there finding people who are okay with us just as we are :^)
My feels...
This part made my heart beat hard. I am on the asexuality scale. I have lost good, close, friends because of my sexuality. I rarely experience sexual attraction. So rarely. I don't understand or relate to my girl friends very often, when it comes to sexual attraction. And, when a friend finds out I am not interested in a sexual relationship, they cut it off. It hurts. A lot. I felt worthless and broken.