ninjies wrote:aspergers sounds likely, but i think it would be a good idea to get a professional to look at him. i have seen a LOT of kids with autism and asperger's who act just like your brother, basically. on the other hand, even more autistic/aspergic kids i've seen despise being treated like they're not capable of certain things and want to be treated as though they didn't have autism/asperger's.
i think the fact that he might be mentally challenged makes this whole situation even sadder. it seems to me he's been spoiled his entire life due to it, and it's turned him into the type of person he is today. i can understand your frustration in that sense, and you can disregard most of what i said before, because i was regarding him as a fully mentally competent individual.
again, though, if you have the means, i'd reaaaallly try to get him to a psychologist. if not, he's just going to keep on this way because it seems like no one wants to be the bad guy and set him straight, and he's going to keep being a nuisance to your family financially.
also, the type of physical abuse you're describing is not okay under any circumstance, and no matter what you decide to do in the end, THAT needs to be addressed.
Issue is he is already nineteen and thinks he is a perfectly innocent normal person. And we have no money for a psychologist. I've been telling mom for years that something is wrong with him; but there is nothing we can do. She's just glad he is getting decent grades in college and what not. Maybe one day he will mature and realize his own mistakes; but it is very unlikely. He hold his job-less, spoiled, 24-7 xbox playing self on a very high pedestal.
I'm a small person so I don't want him to start to get abusive which he will if he feels trapped or turned against by everyone. My and my boyfriend played risk with him years ago and my brother was about to throw his dice at my boy. Fortunately my boy is taller than him and is the only reason why my brother didn't go through with his assault.
NeoKitai wrote:I had to buy a Wii using my own money... when I was 12... and I still have no allowance. I'm happy with my purchase, though- I just got it into my room after 2-3 years. Feels so good. Parents are like that, yeah.
Honestly, I read what you wrote. Talk to your mom's boyfriend. He's the person you can truly trust and is the only person powerful enough to weaken him. But beware- since your mom loves the damned kid, he'll try to get rid of her boyfriend. That's a problem.
Haha. My mom bought my brother every game system you can think of and bought him karate lessons which he got bored with and quit because he wanted to play xbox. I always wanted karate lessons... Instead years later I got tai chi lessons; shamefully I also had two gym classes and a dance class in school at the same time so I had to quit. y.y I never got a game station.
The guy has been her boyfriend for around fourteen years so there is no way he can get rid of him; but my brother wont take him seriously even if he yells at him.
Christh^^ wrote:About the Aspergers, depending on the level of it, it's not really a mental problem, I have an acute case of it, and I'm nothing like your brother.
Yeah, I figure he has it acute as well making it so he just barely fits in with society; but you probably weren't spoiled rotten.