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FitzyJM
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Wow Gavin...
This is incredibly adorable, and also, wow, Gavin can be incredibly dense sometimes, especially with how he over-thinks everything.
This is so painfully awkward, and I LOVE it.
So I've been re-reading through Rain almost all day, and I forgot just how snarky Emily is throughout this whole weekend, especially towards Kellen, and it's just the greatest thing. I love Emily so much
FitzyJM
June 19th, 2019
@Belgarel: Gavin didn't force him to do anything though, he just offered. Gavin could see that he was getting a little uncomfortable, and made an educated guess.

I can absolutely understand why this would be terrifying, and like you said, he doesn't know Gavin, but, Colette is under no obligation to accept this offer.

On top of that, Gavin game him a very good excuse in the form of being a bit cold. So, while he will likely still get dead-named and missgendered all night, even this one little thing (that is innocuous enough that most people wouldn't question because it's a fairly common thing for guys to offer their coats/blazers to girls if they're cold) could have a massive impact on how the rest of Colette's evening goes.

I'm certain that if Colette had refused the blazer, Gavin would have just taken it back without pushing much.
Exciting, and also, what a cute preview panel omg
That's really cool/exciting, thanks for the update, and also, omfg, I love Rain's dress so so so much, and I wish I had it/something like it, and/or that I'd been able to wear a dress to my prom (I hadn't had my realization yet at the time, and even if I had, I probably wouldn't have been able to)

Anyway...I'm excited to see more and see how prom goes for these kids, I hope that getting a buffer of content built up helps, keep being awesome Lynn
FitzyJM
November 28th, 2018
More personal thoughts about this...feel free to ignore
Sorry for kinda rambling a bit...just had a bunch of thoughts about how Rain feels here and why I would probably feel similarly...feel free to ignore...but yeah...

I can definitely see where Rain is coming from here. Like, there might have been a time in my life where I WOULD have maybe wanted something like that, but that's because I was a LOT more insecure about friends and such in High School, and, had I had my realization and been able to either pass or be out at the time, I probably would have loved it...however, as I am now, if I was still in high school, I would feel very similar to Rain about this...my anxiety is a lot stronger than it used to be, and I have more trust issues and worries about how cis people might react to something like that...

Like...I personally don't feel that I pass well...but I've been getting missgendered less and less lately, so I'd be paranoid that a big thing like that would make everyone second-guess my gender (because I don't think that I pass at least)...

But also...like...I've reached a point where I don't necessarily need the type of validation that being crowned Prom Queen (or something similar) would provide...I'm much more confidant about my identity now...and I'd much rather just be happy with my friends and have a good time being who I am, instead of having to deal with the stress of suddenly having the entire school staring at me and freaking out that everyone might suddenly clock me or something...much like Rain, I'm at a place in my life where it's not something I would need, and it would likely just cause a panic attack and overall be more stressful than validating.
FitzyJM
November 28th, 2018
Validation comes in many forms, and it affects everyone differently
While it might be validating for some, it's not the kind of validation that Rain wants or needs at this point in her life, and she'd much rather just enjoy the evening and not deal with the anxiety and/or risk of being outed that being crowned Prom Queen might bring.

I definitely get where she's coming from, and with where I am in my life at the moment, I would feel the same way (though, I'm not sure that I can say that I would have felt the same way when I was in high school...especially if I had already had my realization, which I didn't until about a year after I graduated high school).
FitzyJM
November 14th, 2018
Communication is the most important thing in a relationship...
Oof...now THAT'S a relatable feeling Chanel...my fiancee and I are very long distance at the moment (separate sides of the Atlantic Ocean), but for the most part, we're on Skype together almost constantly (I'm disabled and mostly bed-bound and she's self-employed, so it's mostly possible to stay online the majority of the time)...

We've been together for almost 2 years now, and we've been on Skype constantly like this for almost a year and a half at this point...and we're also both very co-dependent people (especially with each other)...

This kind of lack of communication, that's effectively radio silence...just the thought of it hurts...What Chanel said about her and Maria is EXTREMELY relatable...my fiancee and I have become constant parts of each others lives, she's the one person/thing that keeps me going, and the mere thought of this kind of sudden lack of communication...it's agonizing...

Yes, Maria is sort of in hiding, and yes, she's technically got a reason/excuse...but, that doesn't in any way change/make better the way that this is affecting Chanel...when they do finally get to see each other again, Maria needs to apologize, as this is hurting Chanel quite a bit...
FitzyJM
October 31st, 2018
That's some grade a flirting right there.Ky's blush in this strip is adorable, and not to mention extremely believable, considering that the other person who's shown her any interest lately has been repeatedly dis-respectful of her identity and pronouns.
FitzyJM
October 27th, 2018
Drag vs "Drag Culture"
@someone_else: Hi! I'm a trans woman who has a little bit to say on the drag show topic/question you mentioned here...

Apologies for the length of this comment...I've put a TL;DR: at the end (though, it's still a little wordy...I'm a bit long-winded sometimes...sorry about that)

I personally have some issues with DRAG CULTURE...drag shows and/or drag on their own, I have no problem with, and actively encourage, as it's a form of self exploration and expression...for some trans people, drag was and is one of the only ways that they know of to express their feelings about their gender (especially for people who don't know that being trans is a thing that they can do/be, which, from experience, is often one of the biggest hurdles for people who have their realizations later in life).

I can't and won't speak for all trans people, but I do know that I'm not the only trans woman who get a little wary when drag is mentioned lately, and one of the biggest reasons for that is something I mentioned above, "Drag Culture." Or, at least, "Modern Drag Culture."

When I say Modern Drag Culture, I'm not talking about shows/performances put on/organized by actual trans people...I'm mainly talking about transphobic cis gay men, and the way that they've warped drag over the last few decades...and then, RuPaul...myself and many others feel that RuPaul has taken the transphobia that has been seeping into drag culture (and Drag Culture itself) and made it mainstream...and in doing so, somehow turned up the transphobia even more in some cases...

This is a very complicated issue that a lot of people feel very differently on, and again, I'm not trying to speak for anyone else, and certainly not all other trans people or trans women, I'm just stating what I've seen/heard in conversations in some trans communities when the topic of drag comes up...

I have no problem with drag...but I do have an issue with the way that many cis people have used drag to perpetuate transphobia...


TL;DR: I'm not offended by the drag show that's happening in the current story arc in Rain, not at all, in fact, I think it might potentially be helpful for some people wrt possible gender things *cough* Heather *cough* But, your concern about how many trans folk might react is legitimate, as there are definitely issues, and while some people might be offended, the way that it's being presented here isn't likely to offend many people other than those who hate/are offended by drag altogether.
Relatable AF
OMG! The faces that Rain makes here, as well as the emotions/anxiety/embarrassment she's feeling here, are SO relatable, it almost hurts, wow...

And then Rain's face in the second to last panel is priceless (and again, also VERY relatable).
FitzyJM
October 17th, 2018
I...wow...seriously Rudy?
I'm really not sure what to think here...like, this strip is really well done/written (and also very real wrt how some people are with casually outing people)...but also...WOW Rudy...

I understand why Rudy said that, and I definitely get not wanting to misgender people or hear a friend be misgendered by other people...BUT...the way that Rudy phrased this is VERY reckless...like, he might be thinking that he's too clever and that Gavin wouldn't figure it out from just that, and even if he did, Gavin's cool, he's managed to be respectful of all the other queer people in their social circle...but, even if all of that were 100% true and able to be guaranteed (which, some of it isn't), there's still a LOT of issues here...

1. That information is NOT his to share...Colette came out to him, and it seemed pretty clear that he wasn't ready to be out any more than that at the moment...he has no right to share that information with anyone

2. Yes, Gavin is/has been respectful for the most part, but, like is mentioned above (in 1), that doesn't make it okay for Rudy to potentially out Colette...it's not okay to out anyone when they don't want to be outed...or at all

3. There's also an implication of a potential thought process(es)/opinion(s) that makes Rudy kind of seem like a bad friend...here's my explanation:
To me, it seems like he either DOESN'T CARE if he outs Colette against his wishes (even if it's just to Gavin, Colette made it clear that he's not comfortable being out until, "...I move out for college..."), OR, he thinks that there's NO WAY that Gavin would actually pick up on the very obvious shit that he's saying (like "correcting" what Gavin was saying regarding Rudy chatting/hanging out with "some senior girl"), and while Gavin might not be the smartest person in their group of friends, he's not stupid, and I wouldn't be surprised if he DOES figure it out because of what Rudy said here (and/or other things he might say after this)...
Or, even worse, it seems likely that BOTH of these might be true; that he's actively insulting/belittling/looking down on Gavin's intelligence/ability to understand some PRETTY OBVIOUS hints, AND that he doesn't care if he outs Colette (after being explicitly told that he doesn't feel comfortable coming out for AT LEAST a few months after he's moved away)

Honestly, the point that really drives this all home is one sentence from the third panel.

"I'm correcting you."

Gavin explicitly brings up Colette as "That senior girl," and explicitly mentions how he's "seen you chatting with her in the halls." Like, there's literally NO ONE ELSE that Gavin could possibly be talking about, as he's actively asking who that person (Colette) is, and in response to this, Rudy immediately states that he hasn't been chatting with any girls...like, there's not really much left to interpret there...and then when Gavin asks if Rudy is trolling him (effectively giving Rudy an excuse/escape out of the situation he just created), Rudy DOUBLES DOWN, and explicitly states that he was "correcting" Gavin...and considering that Gavin is very explicitly asking him "who is this specific girl," Rudy's response is effectively saying "this person you think is a girl is not a girl," which, that feels/sounds like being outed to me...

And again, when Gavin gave Rudy an opportunity to stop for a second, realize what he said, and fix the mistake/stop himself from outing Colette, Rudy IMMEDIATELY doubles down and just flat out says, "...no. I'm correcting you," which actively states that this person that was presenting femme/as a girl is NOT a girl...

Like I said earlier, Gavin's not stupid, honestly, I wouldn't be surprised at all if he figures it out, and soon, ESPECIALLY considering the faces that both of them are making in that last panel...like, Gavin is noticeably trying to decipher what Rudy said and what it means, and meanwhile, Rudy looks smug and proud of himself...

Like...I'm gonna be honest, this is a pretty awful thing for Rudy to do, to both of them (though, the slight towards Gavin is far less significant)...but at the same time, if that's the case, and if that topic is explored, it's a very strong and compelling character flaw that could easily drive an arc or something where there's conflict between Rudy and some of the others because of something similar (if not this exact issue)...and so far, Jocelyn has done an awesome job wrt making this potential character flaw/issue pretty realistic...like, speaking from experience, my mom has just casually outed me to multiple people who she thought either wouldn't have any problem with my being trans, or that it wouldn't matter because I'd probably never interact with them again...and in multiple of those cases, her predictions have been wrong (luckily for me, that's mostly in the case of the latter, but still, it's absolutely a risk)...so, I guess I kind of relate to Colette in this situation (which might be why I'm making a whole thing out it...but hey, it's a thing that I was able to connect with, and much like with a comment I posted on a different Rain strip a couple months ago, I wanted to thank Jocelyn for once again doing a difficult topic that many of us go through, and I think is as much a part of the "queer experience" as being closeted is...

So...um...yeah, thank you Jocelyn, for once again doing a super awesome job at really representing this thing that many of us are familiar with in some way, it was done really well here and is a strong set up for it to potentially become a thing and also an exploration of one of our major characters flaws (which are also good to explore).

Okay, I'm done rambling now...sorry, sometimes I get really long-winded, and uh...wow...that was really long...whoopsie...
Thank you...
Hi...I know that you've received a lot of comments/messages about this particular strip in the past...but I wanted to thank you...

My name is Joanna...I'm a 22 year-old trans woman who very recently started reading Rain at the suggestion of my fiance...first of all, I love this comic so much already...I literally just spent almost my entire day binge reading it and catching up (I was starting chapter 10 when I woke up this morning, and I just finished completely catching up...), however, that's not the only reason I'm writing a comment...

Strip # 690, Awakening...and the following story arc that came about because of the events of this strip...thank you so so much for how this was handled...

I say this because I've had something similar done to me in the past (someone cutting my hair in my sleep). Thankfully, I hadn't had my realization yet at the time (which is a weird thing to say), as I'm sure that I would have been exponentially more traumatized, and also thankfully, it wasn't nearly as severe as what Kellen did to Rain in the comic...however...even though I didn't know I was a girl yet, my long hair was one of the only features of mine that I had any form of positive feelings about, and my reaction once I'd realized it (in a very similar way, waking up and finding parts of my hair sitting in my bed), my reaction was very similar to how Rain reacted (at the very least, it was internally, unfortunately, at the time, I was working at a summer Scout camp, and there was an Army general in charge of the camp...so showing any more femininity than I already was might have been dangerous, which, I ended up getting fired later that week anyway - can't imagine why...)

And again, I just wanted to thank you for how this story/arc was handled/written...like, that strip hit home for me particularly hard, but not in a bad way...it was just really impact-full. I literally stopped reading for a couple minutes just in shock, and thinking about how I know how that feels, and then immediately realizing how much more it would have hurt had it happened after my realization...I wasn't out at the time, about anything, hell, I didn't even realize I was queer at the time, or that I even COULD BE queer...but it was done to me because my hair made me more effeminate (I knew there was a reason I liked my long hair, it just took me a while to figure it out)...

Sorry for kind of just rambling on here...I just...thank you for everything regarding how this story/event was handled/written, it means a lot to me, as does this comic in general, I'm hooked and I'm super excited for when the summer hiatus ends and chapter 36 starts. Keep being awesome!