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Pet Talk- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby mitchellbravo » September 26th, 2012, 6:08 pm

Share stories about your pet here! Is he or she undergoing a complicated procedure and you're looking for advice or sympathetic words? Perhaps you had a great loyal dog when you were growing up who you still miss when you see others of the same breed. Maybe the animal isn't even yours, but a stray you pass on the way to school/work every day, or from a nearby farm.

Of course, happy stories are also welcome! Did you just adopt a new friend and want to share pictures? Got any advice of your own to share?

Because the thread is already pet-oriented, it will be easy for you to keep us updated on stories if things change for the better or worse.




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My original story:

Seven years ago we went to the animal shelter. We had lost one of our cats to diabetes, and our other cat was so lonely, so we figured it was a good idea to adopt a new friend.

When we were at the shelter, there were a lot of adorable cats, but I kept coming back to one gray and white kitty who was keeping to the back of her cage- she didn't look scared, just a little shy. The tag on the cage mentioned that she was a "special care" cat, because she had already been adopted and returned twice- first because the family was disappointed that she wasn't coming out and interacting right away, and the second time because the family was changing apartments and wouldn't be able to bring her with them.

We took her home and named her Minnie.

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At first, she was very skittish- she would run if you so much looked at her, let alone took a step toward her. But at the same time, she liked us. She'd come over tentatively and sit on our laps while we watched TV, and would let us pet her while she sat in the sun of the front door. Eventually she became comfortable enough with us that she'd let us pet her pretty much whenever. She knew that we loved her and that she could trust us.

Most importantly, she became best friends with Joey. Here they are in a picture taken a few years ago, squeezing together in a cardboard lid.

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Joey was always grooming her, and they would always play together and try to shove each other out of boxes or get in little batting fights, then cuddle up together minutes later. I have never seen two non-related cats get along so well.

Here's one last picture, she's sitting on a drawing I was trying to work on.

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This summer, she started scratching her ear a lot. Then flakes of what we figured was earwax started to come out. We took her to the vet who prescribed ear drop medicine to battle the infection. We administered the medicine as instructed, but it didn't seem that things were getting better, and a new symptom emerged where her nictitating membrane was coming down over her eye. Took her back to the vet and they looked in her ear, because it seemed that this was related.

Here's a summary of the course of "discovery" over the past three or so months-

1. Minnie has an ear infection
2. Actually, it's an unusually strong infection
3. Actually, it seems to be a polyp, we can remove it but it might come back
4. Signified by her eye symptoms, it might be a mass growing behind her eardrum
5. Signified by how angry the inside of her ear looks, it might be a cancerous mass, but it can be removed by performing aggressive surgery
6. Signified by the fact that she is no longer able to open her jaw fully and is having problems eating as well as problems moving the affected side of her face, the mass has already spread to her jaw, and surgery is no longer recommended

Step 6 we learned on Tuesday morning. At her healthiest weight, she was about 11 pounds. At our last vet visit, she was down to 8.8. We can feel all of the bones in her spine, her ribs, her collarbones, so we think she's lost even more. She is wasting away and can only eat a very small amount of food and doesn't seem to be able to drink water as the lapping/swallowing action hurts her.


My heart is so broken. Indoor cats can live up to their late teens, even their twenties. Joey, for instance, is 16 right now, and healthy as the whale that he is. All of these years I've been preparing myself for his eventual death, thinking he'd pass while I was at college or something, but looks like he's still in the clear.

Minnie isn't even eight years old (about 35-40 in cat years). We had expected for so long during this process that we'd be able to treat her and have her get better. It was going to be really, really expensive, but we were coming up with ways that we could pay for her procedures.

(I want to clarify that I'm not angry at anyone for this, I don't blame our vet or us for not "doing something" sooner, because the "what if" game never gets you anywhere. Our veterinary office and the specialist they sent us to treated us and Minnie so well throughout the entire process- they were all very respectful of our needs and concerns, as well as understanding and comforting during our periods of emotional distress)

She is beside me now on the couch, breathing very shallowly and slowly, covered in a blanket. My mom and I are taking her tomorrow morning to have her put down. Neither of us can handle another day of crying, worrying, and wondering. It's going to be a very long night and a long morning. My stomach ties into a knot when I even think of us having to wrap her up and take her tomorrow. I only hope that she won't be hiding somewhere difficult for us to get her. The last thing we want is to upset her any more than she already will be.

I'll miss she way she would roll around in the sunshine of the windows, tunnel up under people's blankets and make a funny lump in the middle of the bed, meow so sweetly when she wanted attention, jump up on my desk when I was up working late at night, lay on my lap while I watched TV shows for hours. I'll miss seeing her around the house, watching her snuggle up with Joey, watching her play with her toys. I'll miss how she would sit facing away from you, but then turn her head and peek at you over her shoulder, as if to say, "Aren't I beautiful?"

I know that taking her tomorrow is the right decision, because there is no possibility for her to get better, and if we just let her be, she is just going to end up starving to death. She's so hungry, and so tired, and has such trouble getting comfortable now. I don't want her to be in pain anymore.

I'm just going to miss her so much. How is it that someone so small can leave such a hole in my heart?
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Re: Saying goodbye to my pet

Postby Guest » September 26th, 2012, 6:28 pm

This belongs in the venting thread.


You're not really asking a question. You are just venting and telling a story about your cat. Please move this to another thread.

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Re: Saying goodbye to my pet

Postby ParadoxComic » September 26th, 2012, 7:13 pm

Exmachina, this is the "Life Issues" section, and this obviously a life issue.

mitchellbravo I'm so sorry ): I started tearing up just reading your post. Saying goodbye to a pet is one of the hardest things, especially when they're still babies and have so much time left. I know it doesn't help, but you are doing the right thing and helping end her pain. And at least she has the person she loves most right next to her.
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Re: Saying goodbye to my pet

Postby The_Hankerchief » September 26th, 2012, 9:05 pm

ExMachina wrote:This belongs in the venting thread.


You're not really asking a question. You are just venting and telling a story about your cat. Please move this to another thread.

Hypocrite much?

No, Mitchell's in the right. It doesn't necessarily say so, but The Vent Thread was designed as a general thread for short venting posts. If it's a longer, more detailed topic, it can (and should, though it's not officially a forum rule to do so) be placed within its own thread so it doesn't jam up the vent thread.

That said, I'm sorry to hear that, Mitchell. Losing a pet's always hard (One of our cats got what appeared to be a cold and despite our attempts to treat it, she died. I was housesitting for my grandmother at the time, and my mom found her lying under my bed while I was gone.). Having to put one down yourself is even worse; couple of years ago, I had to put down my grandma's horse, which she has had for a long time, because it fell down an eroded creek bank and twisted its leg up in the lower field.

In the end, though, Paradox is right, you are doing the right thing. And from your older posts on the matter, I know you tried just about everything else. You did good, Mitchell, and don't let anyone tell you different.

There's really not much more I can say that'll make you feel better, but you have my support and prayers behind you tomorrow. (I know, doesn't do a lick of good, but something's better than nothing, I suppose). Good luck tomorrow, and if you need to talk to someone about it later, feel free to PM me.
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Re: Saying goodbye to my pet

Postby Ddraigeneth » September 27th, 2012, 5:07 pm

My husband and I took in a stray cat a few years ago who was just the sweetest thing--he'd obviously been someone's pet. We only had him for a few months before he got really sick and we had to put him down. All you can do is make them as comfortable as you can. They know you love them.
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby mitchellbravo » September 29th, 2012, 9:54 am

ParadoxComic: Thanks so much for your kind words. We stayed with her right up to the end, so I like to think she knew we loved her! And you're right, it's especially difficult when they're so young. We were expecting to have her another ten years or so, and to lose such a significant amount of time makes it such a punch in the gut.

Hank: I've never had the experience of one of our cats dying and then being found- we had to put them all down at the vet save for the one that died in the closet in my mother's arms :( I can't imagine how your mom felt upon finding her. And at least you were able to take care of the horse before it hurt itself more, they're such beautiful animals but their legs are so important yet fragile in this kind of situation, oh the poor thing :(
Thanks for being so supportive through the process when I posted in other threads about this, by the way. It really did help a lot.

Ddraigeneth: Some friends only stay with us a brief time, it's true. My neighbor took in a stray who had pretty significant problems due to worms, but was able to keep her around for about a year or so if I recall correctly. We showered her with love and blankets and snuggled her until after we knew she was gone.


I really just want to say thank you to all of you, because at least for me, words DO help. Sometimes this felt like such a lonely venture- my mom and I had each other's shoulders to cry on, but often we didn't know what in the world to do and had to turn to others for advice. It's been a really difficult week- I'm starting to get my mental energy back, but physically I still ache from digging the grave :/ The healing process has begun and we're trying to keep our other cat from getting too lonely, and just working on getting through life from day to day. Knowing that I had you guys' support is very helpful and comforting- while it doesn't dull the pain of her loss, it makes me remember that we did the right thing, and that things will get better.

Wow, I didn't even see ExMachina's line calling me a hypocrite :lol: Well, I was going to say that I understood the point he was trying to make, that this thread isn't really productive for discussion. I made this thread in an emotional flurry and now I can look back on it with a more productive view, so I've changed the OP of the thread to broaden the area for discussion. Please share more pet stories, happy or sad! Many of us here have pets and can sympathize, advise, and make happy noises at cute animal pictures.
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby Hjels » September 29th, 2012, 10:15 am

When I grew up, we had a beautiful, fat cat called Maren. When I was about 14, I was visiting a friend in another city during the summer break, when suddenly one day, I got this sudden, inexplicable feeling that my cat had died. I told my friend this and said that I had to go home, because I thought my cat was dead. He tried to convince me to stay, and to at least call home first, but I didn't want to get the news over the phone.

So when I got home the next day, I walked in the door and found my sisters, who had been in our cabin in the woods with our cat while I was away. I asked where the cat was, and my sister told me that she had died, pretty much the exact moment I got the feeling.

I don't believe in mumbo-jumbo like that, but now, a decade and a half later, I still haven't been able to explain what happened.

On a lighter note, my mother also had had a dog while I still lived in my hometown, a black flatcoat retriever called Lasse. When he was quite young, he was bitten across the head by another dog, and for the rest of his life, he had grey fur growing out of the spots where the other dog's teeth had sunk in. The fur around his ears also became really curly during the winter, so he kind of looked like a rastafarian. :) Lasse was the reason I became a dog person. He was always loyal, and lived for all his years believing life was a game, and everyone he met were his playmates.

I had been out playing football (sawker) with my friends when my mother called me to tell me that they had put him to sleep. I was prepared, and I knew he had been sick for a little while. I kept it together until I hung, up but immediatelly after, I broke down and cried. It helped to be surrounded by friends, though.

Man, did I say lighter? :P

Ok, really lighter now: My mom has a new dog, a chesapeak bay retirever called Noah. He's ugly as sin, but a great dog.
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby Alexis_Royce » September 29th, 2012, 12:12 pm

mitchellbravo wrote:...I've changed the OP of the thread to broaden the area for discussion. Please share more pet stories, happy or sad! Many of us here have pets and can sympathize, advise, and make happy noises at cute animal pictures.


I think that sounds like a good idea for a thread!

My fiancee and I have a pacific parrotlet, Curtis. They're about five inches tall, and though not the best imitators, they can talk. Whatever they say tends to sound like voice effects off a gameboy. They're really expressive, too. Before I'd ever gotten a bird, I never thought about them as companionable types, but Curtis is really social. When he's bored in his cage, he'll yell "Come here! Hey, Baby! Come here!" across the apartment at us. XD

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His behavior has gotten better, but he can still be very excitable. About a year ago while I was getting his breakfast ready, he got impatient and bit me on the finger. It's tough to punish a bird (they like noises, so scolding them just rewards them), but putting him back in his cage after bad behavior is the best route. I started walking to his cage, and he let go of my finger, and puffed up, displaying all the outward signs of happiness and calm. Like a child playing innocent. He looked me right in the eye, and said "Curtis is a good boy."

I couldn't keep my mouth shut. "Oh no, you're not!" Acting cute won't work.

(Okay, no. It totally works. All the time.)
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby Ddraigeneth » September 30th, 2012, 1:24 am

Curtis sounds adorable. My husband and I have talked about getting birds, though my preference would be Singing Green Finches and they're kind of expensive. Maybe once we get the cat under control.
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby Alexis_Royce » September 30th, 2012, 12:17 pm

Ddraigeneth wrote:Curtis sounds adorable. My husband and I have talked about getting birds, though my preference would be Singing Green Finches and they're kind of expensive. Maybe once we get the cat under control.


I love him. Parrotlets have some crazy distinctive personalities for being so small.

Cats and birds don't mix too well. A bite from many household cats can actually be toxic to them, so if you want to bring birds into your home, finches would be a good call. They get on well with each other without needing coddling or time outside the cage with their owners. ^_^
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby Ddraigeneth » October 1st, 2012, 3:15 am

Yeah, my husband loves finches anyway, so some variety of them is pretty much a given if/when we get birds.
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby IsaacCraveFries » October 1st, 2012, 6:37 am

i brought a 1 year old cat 2 months ago from a shelter. its a even tempered kitty. rarely plays, sleeps alot, doesn't bother u too much. i have a dog and he is hyperactive and energetic and the cat hates my dog every time the dog comes around it hisses and scratches at it or runs away. it would be nice if they got along but i think it wont happen cuz my dog made a bad impression ever since the day my cat came in the house for the first time and the cat was new to the environment but my dog was tooo like... 'invading personal space' sniffing at it too much and scaring it off. my cat bullies my dog sometimes by eating its food and my dog is twice its size... and when my dog comes around my cat he just leaves....my dog follows but then my cat hisses at him and leaves again making my dog whimper. he wants to be friends so bad...why doesn't my cat wanna be friends? :(
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby Krazehhcakes » October 1st, 2012, 7:17 am

Strangely appropriate thread.
My dog is so cute. like SO CUTE. Its like having a bear/dog/bunny at the same time.
I just wish he wasn't so completely stupid. No dog in the world is as stupid as he is.
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby mitchellbravo » October 1st, 2012, 12:32 pm

Hjels wrote:I don't believe in mumbo-jumbo like that, but now, a decade and a half later, I still haven't been able to explain what happened.

That's crazy, Hjels. It's the sort of thing that when it happens to other people, you can blow it off, like "Yeah, yeah, sure you knew *pats on back*" but then you experience it yourself, and it makes you really wonder...

I had been out playing football (sawker) with my friends when my mother called me to tell me that they had put him to sleep. I was prepared, and I knew he had been sick for a little while. I kept it together until I hung, up but immediatelly after, I broke down and cried. It helped to be surrounded by friends, though.

Lasse sounds like he was a beautiful dog and a great friend. Even when you know their time is coming, it's still so painful when they're finally gone. Do you have any pictures of him?

Ok, really lighter now: My mom has a new dog, a chesapeak bay retirever called Noah. He's ugly as sin, but a great dog.

Hehe, sometimes the ugliest, runtiest, run-down pets make the best pets. Then it gets to where you love them not despite their issues, but because of them.



Alexis_Royce wrote:My fiancee and I have a pacific parrotlet, Curtis. They're about five inches tall, and though not the best imitators, they can talk. Whatever they say tends to sound like voice effects off a gameboy. They're really expressive, too. Before I'd ever gotten a bird, I never thought about them as companionable types, but Curtis is really social. When he's bored in his cage, he'll yell "Come here! Hey, Baby! Come here!" across the apartment at us. XD

Ohhhhh he's just the cutest little thing!!! Look at his soft round head! XD I love looking at birds, but I'm always so scared I'm going to hurt them so I try to avoid handling them. :(

"Curtis is a good boy."

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IsaacCraveFries wrote:i brought a 1 year old cat 2 months ago from a shelter. its a even tempered kitty. rarely plays, sleeps alot, doesn't bother u too much. i have a dog and he is hyperactive and energetic and the cat hates my dog every time the dog comes around it hisses and scratches at it or runs away. it would be nice if they got along but i think it wont happen cuz my dog made a bad impression ever since the day my cat came in the house for the first time and the cat was new to the environment but my dog was tooo like... 'invading personal space' sniffing at it too much and scaring it off. my cat bullies my dog sometimes by eating its food and my dog is twice its size... and when my dog comes around my cat he just leaves....my dog follows but then my cat hisses at him and leaves again making my dog whimper. he wants to be friends so bad...why doesn't my cat wanna be friends? :(

I'm sorry to hear your pets don't get along :( Cats are usually very, very sensitive about personal space and often the excitability and frenetic loudness of an energetic dog are very off-putting. From the cat's perspective, you kind of have to imagine someone way bigger and stronger than you suddenly coming up, not introducing themself but just breathing and grunting really loudly and hugging you and slapping their arms aggressively around your body :lol: Even though you and I know the dog's behavior isn't threatening, the cat perceives it as a threat because of how "invasive" it is. Remember that cats in the wild are solitary creatures. Domestic cats can learn to enjoy the company of other cats, people, and other animal species, but will have no qualms about running out of a situation or defending themselves if they feel unsafe or uncomfortable.




Krazehhcakes wrote:Strangely appropriate thread.
My dog is so cute. like SO CUTE. Its like having a bear/dog/bunny at the same time.
I just wish he wasn't so completely stupid. No dog in the world is as stupid as he is.

Can we have some happy puppy pictures? :D
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Re: Pet's Vent- Tell us about a pet/animal friend

Postby Hjels » October 2nd, 2012, 4:54 am

mitchellbravo wrote:Lasse sounds like he was a beautiful dog and a great friend. Even when you know their time is coming, it's still so painful when they're finally gone. Do you have any pictures of him?


I wasn't any good at taking pictures of him while he was alive, unfortunately. But I do have a couple. My mom was much better at that than me. She has libraries full of pictures of him.

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Notice the grey hairs on his head. That's where he was bitten. :)
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