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Re: Let's Vent

Postby Seven Rain » April 21st, 2019, 4:09 am

My cat caught a mouse and tried to bring it into the living room and I freaked out and made her drop it so she doesn't torture it in the middle of the room but when I shooed her away and turned around the mouse was gone and now I don't know where it's hiding or if it's okay or how to get it out of the house and if it gets caught again after I saved it once I'm gonna be crushed god fucking dammit things like this are a constant reminder that I can't handle the real world in any way shape or form.
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Re: Let's Vent The Conjuring has the biggest plot hole...

Postby Xero Boomer » April 22nd, 2019, 11:41 am

I'm sorry to all "The Conjuring" fans out there but the very first movie in their franchise has a giant flaw at the end, and the flaw is this: who taught the witch how to drive? Their were no cars in her era so how did the witch drive her kids back to the house, it makes no sense! Are there diving courses in the afterlife?...smh
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby mitchellbravo » May 6th, 2019, 8:16 pm

I feel lousy, physically, at this time and just want to go to bed. I don't feel like editing the comic page but also don't want to fall off the ball after so many weeks of consistent updates.

Emotionally I feel fine at least which is nice. I also just wish my apartment didn't smell like trash/spoiled food with seemingly no reasonable source (the trash has food in it but is also in the kitchen, and has a lid) despite me cleaning on a regular basis


edit: ahahahahaha holy shit. Tried to take a photo of my page and the quality of the image was so shitty it was unworkable. Just tried again and it came out better but still requires so much work to fix. Really not up for this at this time
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby mitchellbravo » June 9th, 2019, 6:42 pm

Thursday night I came down with a really bad stuffy throat to the point I couldn't sleep lying down and had to prop myself up awkwardly and barely got any sleep. Since then it's moved to become clogged sinuses and a tickling cough and just pervasive physical tiredness. It was worse yesterday, though today I had enough energy to do laundry and a little bit of tidying up. By evening I'm drained and have to get to bed, even if I'm mentally awake, I'm physically too tired to do anything, and too out of it to even read or do much anything like that. I'm bummed because a) it sucks and b)I was hoping to get a lot of coloring and stuff done this weekend, in addition to cleaning up the place more since it's gross.

I never used to get laid out this bad by a cold. This sucks!!
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby mitchellbravo » June 12th, 2019, 8:56 pm

SKIN TMI
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MY ECZEMA FLARE IS SO BAD RN THAT MY CHEST SEEMS TO HAVE 8 ASYMMETRICAL AND UNEQUALLY DISPERSED NIPPLES
I'M "SO GLAD" THIS IS HAPPENING AROUND BATHING SUIT SEASONE
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby mitchellbravo » July 1st, 2019, 8:24 pm

Guess this is my thread now

Well, I realized I have either a sensitivity or an allergy to eggs, specifically undercooked eggs but possibly also cooked, undercooked I get bad cramps and diarrhea, not sure if cooked also gives me a problem but I have a million skin issues (see prev. post and last thousand posts in this thread i'm sure) so I'm trying to cut all eggs from my diet for a while until I get this shit figured out

Goddamn do I want a crepe or an omelet or just an over easy egg
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby Seven Rain » July 3rd, 2019, 11:22 pm

Don't worry I've finally got something to contribute here again because fuck my shitty neighbors. They're horrible people but my living situation is beyond my control and I never have to interact with them so I just try to ignore how shitty they are, but I draw a line at animal cruelty, and if leaving their poor crying cat outside in this humidity with everything soaking wet from rain earlier in the night and fireworks going off constantly doesn't count as cruel then fuck everything. I can't coax the poor thing inside so all I can do is hope they'll come home and let their cat in instead of being negligent pieces of shit who went to bed with him/her outside all night.

I hate feeling helpless about people mistreating their animals.
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby mitchellbravo » July 7th, 2019, 12:00 am

Silly me reading comments on a blog before I go to sleep after having stayed up way too late. The comments are usually either okay or bad jokes by people trying too hard to be funny, and usually it's just mindless stuff I can glaze over until I get tired. Then I come across a comment in this weeks old post that was really awful and transphobic and only one person called them out on it and they just bulldozed past the call-outer and now I just feel soured not only on reading any more comments but in that community as a whole.

The person was literally arguing that transphobes are more persecuted than trans people and mentioning the trans agenda and I wish I could just laugh off how ridiculous their argument is but this shit is part of why people kill themselves
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby The_Hankerchief » July 15th, 2019, 4:13 am

I'm going to preface the following by saying I'm very glad the forums are still around. There's some things you just don't don't bring up on Facebook. Unfortunately, this vent is one of them.

My stepbrother got arrested on Tuesday following a 2 1/2 hour long stands with the police. At my house.

So, background that the news article does not give:
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Tim is a combat veteran; he did eight years in the Marines as an infantryman, and two in the Oregon National Guard. Been to Iraq, Afghanistan, and a mess of other places, and didn't come back the same. He's been diagnosed with PTSD and other issues. He got cashiered during the big DOD-wide drawdown they had during the Obama administration, and after a failed attempt to try for Officer Candidate School through the Army National Guard, he attempted to go to school for a psychology degree, so he could "help veterans with the same issues he had".

Unfortunately, a PTSD-induced incident at his old college left him barred from campus (though not officially expelled), and he moved back in with my mom and stepdad. After I booted the ex-girlie out, I invited him to move to my house in Montana and get a fresh start. He did, and in the two years he's lived here, he'd been doing great. Got a good job, managed to get back into school, even was seeing a girlie down at the hospital he worked at.

In the last month or so, though, his life took a hard dive. He had a hiccup with his school, which led to him being dropped as a student, and, demanding repayment for his student loans (he used up his GI bill benefit, and had to take out a separate loan to finish his degree), they started garnishing his wages. Then we found out his dad (my stepdad) has stage IV prostate cancer. Finally, at least how he said it, he found out last Wednesday that his girlfriend had been sleeping around on him, and that was the tipping point. He relapsed, had been drinking a fifth of vodka every day, and had began displaying increasingly erratic behavior, to include dry-firing a gun at his own head. Alarmed, I began to plan an intervention for him to seek professional help.

To that end, I got rid of all the booze in the house, and his all of the guns, mine and his, in the garage (I didn't want either present, and I'm the only one with a key and clicker to the garage.) Tim worked nights, and I days, but there's a brief time of overlap between when I get home from work, and he has to leave to go to work. That's when I was going to do it, that evening. Unfortunately, he came home from work that morning with a bottle, got really drunk, and realized I had hid the guns in the house. Also unfortunately, I forgot about the holdout pistol he kept in his car.

I have another buddy living with me currently, who was going help me that evening. Tim held him at gunpoint demanding his guns back. My buddy called me, begging for me to tell Tim where the guns were so Tim wouldn't shoot him (I later reviewed the security camera footage of my house, and Tim was holding the holdout pistol to his head during the phone call). I told Tim where they were (didn't want my buddy getting shot, and Tim couldn't get to them immediately anyway), and while Tim tried to break into the garage, my buddy got away and took shelter at a neighbor's. After that, Tim barricaded himself in the house, with the guns he retrieved (I hid the ammo elsewhere, and he never did find where I had it stashed) and threatened to shoot anybody that came by, particularly me (he was really mad at me).


Nobody got hurt, thank God, and other than a few bullet holes in my walls, no damage, but still. It's been almost a week and I'm still pretty rattled. This is exactly what I was trying to avoid, and if I hadn't of forgotten that stupid holdout pistol, it probably wouldn't have happened.

I don't know. Maybe he'll actually get the help he needs. I just wish things didn't have to get this bad for that to happen.
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby eishiya » July 15th, 2019, 7:43 am

The_Hankerchief wrote:This is exactly what I was trying to avoid, and if I hadn't of forgotten that stupid holdout pistol, it probably wouldn't have happened.

From the sound of it, it still would've happened, just with fewer bullet holes. You did good. Hopefully he can get help D:
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby mitchellbravo » July 15th, 2019, 12:05 pm

Holy shit, Hank, I'm so sorry to hear how that went down. That's terrifying. Please know that even though you couldn't prevent all of the damage from occurring, you very likely mitigated a much worse outcome from happening.
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby Mundius » July 18th, 2019, 9:55 am

Hank, just remember, you saved someone's life that day.

Also, I know this is going to sound bad, but if he didn't have the holdout pistol, he'll find another weapon.
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby The_Hankerchief » July 18th, 2019, 11:16 am

Appreciate the support, guys, thank you. He's still in jail, awaiting an arraignment hearing (think it'll be sometime next week). In the meantime, what with all the stuff I have to do in the aftermath, I'm burnt out. I'm taking a vacation.
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby Soft Dorito » July 25th, 2019, 10:38 pm

Oh geez, Hank. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I hope things turn out all right and your brother gets the help he needs. You did a good thing. Have a great vacay!

So, um. Hi guys! I dropped off again. I had to come back. I wanted to work on some things again, and I really, really needed this thread. Like, I really need a therapist, but I can't do that right now (see below if you'd like). And so a vent should be okay now I think.

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The awesome job I had turned sour seemingly overnight. When I was hired, I was told that a proper manager for my department would be hired soon, and until then there was an admin manager myself and the other designer were to answer to in the meantime. At first, she wasn't especially hands-on, and then they decided at the end of this past year to make her the director. She...had no idea what she was doing. She had no idea what it actually took to do what we were doing. She had no idea how hard it was to concentrate in an open office with fucking real estate sales people next to us (she sat at the quieter end of the building). She'd been an admin manager (essentially just an assistant for the brokers) for years, but she had no and I mean NO background in marketing or design. My co-worker started immediately looking for a job and found one a few months later. I wasn't so lucky, so in the middle of trying to find something else, I tried my damnedest to make the best of it. I was still being paid well, after all. But the stress started piling on.

Suddenly, a lot of the in-between things that had been okay before were no longer okay. For instance, the job was set up as an assignment-to-assignment kind of basis. In-between, my coworker and I were allowed to do more or less whatever we pleased. I would actually work on my comic. I was assured that it was fine, hence why I did it. Even my co-worker did things like leave and go to a nearby store, or he'd work on some software stuff for his private use. It was implied to both of us that as long as the work got done in a timely manner, it did not matter what else we did. We were even set up to work remotely (I did a few times, but because I did not reach out and ask for more work - when she was supposed to be delegating the work, especially after becoming the director - she was hesitant to let me). I ran out of PTO before December, and when I got the flu, they said it was fine. I could make up the hours or just take the hit. I made it up by coming in extra time. HR and the director used this against me during a performance review, saying they wanted me to hold onto my PTO so I could go on a "real vacation." Huh, kinda thought going to the doctor was more important (note: I'd been in an accident a week before I started the job/week after giving my 2 weeks at a different one and had been going to get medication, testing, and some chiropractic help. I informed them that this was what ate up my PTO since no doctor's office around here seems to be open on a weekend or past 5/before 9 but that did not change anything).

I'd also like to note that that director was out whenever she could be ('course, she was salary and I was hourly). She'd go to an afternoon meeting and take hours off after, or her dog was sick so she had to stay home with him, or she was sick or her toilet was messed up or...fucking hell, there was always something. And if I needed her sign-off on something or to ask her help on getting some info from a particularly dodgy broker? No dice. Have to wait. So, in comparison, one morning I woke up to a flat tire. My family lives 20-60 minutes away depending on who we're talking about, and I had no spare. I called my parents for help on what to do, and I called my job. The director flipped. She said I at least had to come get the laptop to work from home because we had shit piled up that needed to be done today. I ended up calling a friend to give me a ride to/from work before the tow truck arrived for my car, and I spent the entire day with one assignment that wasn't actually due for about a week.

Every time an assignment came in to me, I'd do it and send it off. Nothing was left on the wayside. Except for the things I couldn't actually do. See, that admin manager/director asked me to start updating a directory owned by the parent company. Cool, no big - but how? I didn't have any way to do it. The directory on my portal just had a search button, a text bar, and that was it. After contacting several people who had no clue what to tell me and back-and-forths with her (including at one point telling me loudly in front of the rest of the office I wasn't doing something right. How could I not just get it done?), I finally contacted a person who told me that I didn't have access. ONLY that admin manager did. When I told her, she started jumping through hoops to make that my job, but she didn't actually give me any credentials. Once we were finally on some kind of kick, though (involving her just telling me to sign into her portal), we hit a snag with our firewall. Three months later, and it was still on the back burner because - I don't know. Literally all I was told was that she was supposed to talk to IT about it, but she was never able to take that call (even though we had a snag with the same folks setting up some computers and she jumped up their asses about that) and fix it. By the end, this had gone on for the entire time I was there.

Then there were the mistakes. I made them, my coworker made them, she definitely made them. But ultimately, that's why they said they fired me last month. How could I constantly make typos? Oh, I dunno, hun, maybe because I'm hearing 7 different conversations going at once and when I put my headphones on, 3-6 people come by to chat about inane bullshit every. Goddamn. Time. And how could I not know the ins and outs of the real estate industry? BITCH what do I need to know? You know what the other designers in the industry know? How to do their jobs. I know because I've talked to them - 3 major companies think you're out of your mind. I can't know every type of warehouse and percentage of this and that off the top of my head! Even my coworker didn't know, and he had more experience than I did by a decade! That information comes from the brokers, and if it's wrong how am I supposed to know? I don't even have access to their guides and whatnot.

Oh, and the top folks? CFO/CEO, etc., blantly lied to us. We were told we'd get a quiet space to work in for months, but nothing ever changed. Then changed the policy of the company from "open door" to a series of "values" which added up to "idk work it out your damn selves."

Note that the two times I managed to sequester myself to a quiet, separate office and actually just work, like I wanted to? No fucking send-backs, no mistakes. Hm. Wonder why.

So I was out, and they hired a temp. That they had me train, of course. And his comments? Yeah, it is a shit show, dude. I don't know what else to tell you. He does everything he can in PhotoShop, so they'll have fun with that once he has to build in Indesign. Like most of their shit is.

I did my job, and fuck them, I did my job well. Give me the info, and I can make something happen. Withhold the info for 2 weeks, yeah no shit I can't get you something immediately.

That doesn't even include the rampant racism and homophobia. One co-worker I made friends with was the only black employee. And she's constantly reminded of it. Shit between her and my (and at the time, her) manager got so bad, they got her a new manager. As for the homophobia, I'm bi. And I didn't say a damn thing about it. As a matter of fact, I once told half the office a funny story that involved my ex-boyfriend. But, one day after my friend and I mentioned the company's women's group could showcase unconventional women (note we meant women who don't like make-up and heels, which the women's group really focused on), that apparently set it in their mind who and what I was. A bunch of the admin girls got together with my friend and actually cornered her, asking her what my sexuality was (professional!). According to her, they had in mind what the answer was and just wanted confirmation. I was nothing but nice to these girls, and dear god how horrible they were. (Pretty sure my friend got away with being bi because she has a current boyfriend.)

UGH. I'm just so frustrated with this utter bullshit. The place was horrible, and I hated it. But...I mean, I kinda need work.
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Re: Let's Vent

Postby Mundius » July 30th, 2019, 11:41 pm

I want to break my university's legs right now.

There's two courses, one's a second year course, and one's a third year course. I have the proper requirements. The issue is the second year course has only one lab slot open and it conflicts with the third year course, which only has one segment- I have no option but to take that segment. I'm currently on the waitlist for that course, and very deep in that waitlist because my university won't give us more funding (course size 80, waitlist is currently on 85 people, I was in the 60s). I can't sign up to be on a waitlist for another lab slot for the second year course either, it's either take this, or wait until someone drops the course and hop onto it fast enough. So I'm in line for a course and while I'm in line, I can't take the course I need too. I can however, ask for permission for a timeslot override, so I could theoretically take both. I ask the professor for it if it's possible, stating that I'm only on waitlist, and his email was basically "No. Never."

It was the easiest decision to drop that waitlist, but I'll need to retake it later.
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