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Re: Anger Issues

Postby corruption » April 3rd, 2011, 3:44 am

Reigan wrote:I would go to a professional, but then my parents would find out, and I'd rather shout all of my problems out in a crowded area then let that happen. Me and my parents don't have the best relationship, especially my mother. I don't hate them or anything; they're great parents, but we're just not that close at all. I hate to see them worry over me, and it's not because of guilt, but because it makes me feel awkward, and sometimes even angry towards them. I don't have anyone that I could trust with this, really.


In a way you are shouting it out in a crowded area. That's what these forums are. If you hold your parents at a distance, they will wonder what is going on. They may not be close to you because they think you want room to be you, and are trying not to smother you.

They may of noticed things already and are worried about you, wondering what is going on, but not wanting to pressure you. Consider this: you are hidding something from them, you are prone to acting angry at times, with stuff being broken, and your brother may or may not of mentioned the knife throwing, or they saw some damage from the knives. If you have to spend money to fix problems that damage stuff due to you acting in fustration, you probably are going through money a bit quickly as well. The signs your parents may see are also some of the same signs that parents of drug addicts may see.

Approach them generally and feel them out. Same with your friends. I think they would be worried about you, but also hurt a bit that you did not trust them enough to tell them.

You know you need help, and admitting it to yourself is the first step. Seeking out help is the second. However, we can only give you so much advice because we are not there, we don't know the details and other such things.

I think you, your parents and your friends would all rather you told them and asked for their help then them finding out by you doing something stupid in a moment of fustration and anger that you will regret for the rest of your life, if you live long enough to regret anything.

Some people who have emotional problems try to cover them up, but the methods used only cause more problems latter on so I will not tell you what they are here, else you get tempted to follow them.


Now that is out of the way, here is another approach. In life I no-longer get very angry because I have learned not to give a sh!t about the little things in life. I accept there is a lot of cr@p in life and came to realize anger does not help much. If something seems too difficult for me to do one way, I figure it would be best to do it another way. I never rush, because I know rushing causes problems.

One last piece of advise; never ever put your self into a position where you are under a lot of self impossed preasure, without good cause. It only makes you angrier and also more likely to get things wrong.
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Re: Anger Issues

Postby OnePaleChick » April 3rd, 2011, 12:57 pm

There is nothing wrong with getting professional help. I'm sure if your parents knew you were going through this, they would do everything they could to help you. I will tell you from experience that if you don't do something about it now, it only gets worse. I've watched my brother's and friends over the years get progressively worse until they ended up in jail or beaten to a pulp. Worse, I've seen them hurt people they care about because they got way too caught up in their anger. It seems like it's already getting worse since you're throwing sharp knives... what if the next time you get angry, you do something worse, and actually hurt your brother? Even if your brother is annoying (and yeah I know they are, I grew up with 3), I know you wouldn't want to really hurt him.
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Re: Anger Issues

Postby Reigan » April 3rd, 2011, 8:39 pm

Thanks guys, you're input is appreciated : )

@Gibson:

My parents are religious, but as far as I know, my brother is an atheist, and I just don't care either way. I haven't gone to church since I was around the age of seven, and since then I haven't taken part in any religious practices. I have a church literally right next door to my school, but I'm hesitant to go there since a couple of years back, a bunch of priests were arrested for having child pornography, one of them being in that church (if my memory serves me right).

And my community is relatively small, so no, I don't think I have any Free Clinics nearby.

@Corruption:

My parents have no idea of my actions. My brother never told them, and no damage was done during both of those episodes. As I've recently realized, my parents are a part of (if not the main source), of my problem, so telling them about this wouldn't be the best solution, since I know that they'd go straight to denial about it all. If I told my friends, it would just add unnecessary awkwardness and tension between us; I'd rather them think me as the Happy-Go-Lucky person I usually am than someone who would lash out at them because they wont pass the ketchup.

@OnePaleChick

Yes, I'm aware how this can escalate, so I don't plan on doing nothing about this (hope that didn't sound snappy D: ). I know I don't want to hurt my brother, in fact I'm actually now quite close to him, as far as brother-sister relationships go.

Right now, I'm conversing with someone who I think can help me discover the roots of my problems, and how I can work to fix this. I'm actually reading a book online that I think might also be helpful, so right now, I'm not completely alone : )
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Re: Anger Issues

Postby corruption » April 5th, 2011, 3:48 am

Reigan wrote:
@Corruption:

My parents have no idea of my actions. My brother never told them, and no damage was done during both of those episodes. As I've recently realized, my parents are a part of (if not the main source), of my problem, so telling them about this wouldn't be the best solution, since I know that they'd go straight to denial about it all. If I told my friends, it would just add unnecessary awkwardness and tension between us; I'd rather them think me as the Happy-Go-Lucky person I usually am than someone who would lash out at them because they wont pass the ketchup.



You don't have to tell them that you have anger isues right off. You might tell them that you often are stressed out a bit. From what I can tell you get angry when stressed, so you won't be lying, and they will be aware you have a problem and may be interested in helping you deal with whatever stresses you. You can tell your parents that and tell them you would like to see someone to help you deal with it.
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